A Good Read

Any book list can only be partial. This list is meant to interest you, stimulate and intrigue you and perhaps send you off to the bookstore or library to delve ever deeper.


Gottman, John The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work Random House, 1999

Love, Patricia and Stonsny, Steven How to improve your marriage without talking about it Broadway Books, 2007

Hendrix, Harville and Hunt, Helen LaKelly Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples 20th Anniversary Edition Holt and Company, 2007

Page, Susan Why Talking Is Not Enough 8 Loving Actions that will Transform your Marriage Jossy-Bass, 2006

Dinerman, Sara and Kearns, J.M. How can I be your lover when I’m too busy being your mother? The answer to Becoming Partners Again NY Simon & Schuster, 2012

Tatkin, Stan Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship New Harbinger Publications, 2011

Levine, Amir and Heller, Rachel Attached. The New Science Of Adult Attachment And How It Can Help You Find – And Keep – Love Penguin Group, 2011

Snarch, David Intimacy and Desire: Awaken the Passion in Your Relationship Sterling Productions, 2009

Snarch, David Passionate Marriage: Keeping love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships WW Norton & Co., 1997

Hasting, Anne Stirling Discovering sexuality that will satisfy you both: when couples want differing amounts and different kinds of sex The Printed Voice, 1993

Perry, Bruce and Szalavitz Born for Love: Why Empath is Essential – and Endangered HarperColins, 2010


Norwood, Perdita Kirkness and Wingender, Teri The Enlightened Stepmother: Revolutionizing the Role NY Avon Books, 1999

Stiffelman, Susan Parenting Without Power Struggles: Raising Joyful, Resilient Kinds While Staying Cool, Calm and Connected Simon & Schuster, 2010

Brown, Lyn Mikel & Gilligan, Carol Meetin at the Crossroads women’s Psychology and Girls’ Development Harvard University Press, 1992

Rothchild, Gillian Dear Mom and Dad: What Kids of Divorce Really Want to Say to Their Parents: More Than 180 ways to Help Your Child Survive Your Divorce Simon & Schuster, 1999

Gottman, John Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: The Heart of Parenting Simon & Schuster, 1997

Faber, Adele and Mazlish How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk Simon and Schuster, Inc., 1980

Coloroso, Barbara Kids Are Worth It!: Giving your child The Gift Of Inner Discipline Penguin Group, 2001

Gerhart, Sue Why Love Matters: How Affection Shapes a Baby’s Brain Brunner-Routledge, 2004


Chodron, Pema When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times Shambala Publications, 1997

Bloomfield, Harold, H and McWilliams Peter How to Survive The Loss Of A Love Prelude Press, 1991 Family & Children expertise

Viorst, Judith Necessary Lossess: The Loves, Illusions, Dependencies and Impossible Expectations That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Grow Fireside Press, 1998

Ford, Debbie Spiritual Divorce: Divorce as a Catalyst for an Extraordinary Life HarperCollins, 2001

Lowrance, Michele The Good Karma Divorce: Turn Negative Emotions into Positive Actions, and Get On with the Rest of Your Life HarperCollins, 2011

Abrahms Spring, Janis After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful HarperCollins, 1996

Kabat-Zinn, Jon, PhD. Full Catastrophe Living Using the Wisdom of your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness Delacorte Press, 1990


Siegel, Daniel J. Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation Bantam books, 2011

Lipton, PhD, Bruce The Biology of Belief: Unleashing the Power of Consciousness, Matter & Miracles Hay House Inc., 2005

Hanson, Rich and Mendius, Richard The practical neuroscience of Buddha’s Brain happiness, love & wisdom New Harbinger, 2009

Bourne, Edmund. The Anxiety & Phobia Workbook, Fourth Ed. New Harbinger Pub. Inc. 2005

Mate, Gabor In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts Knopf Canada, 2009

Mate, Gabor When The Body Says No: The cost of Hidden Stress Knopf Canada, 2004

Hanson, Rich and Mendius Richard The practical neuroscience of Buddha’s Brain happiness, love & wisdom New Harbinger, 2009

Hansen, Rick Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm and Confidence Harmony Books, 2013

Levine, Peter In An Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness North Atlantic Books, 2010


Fairchild, Betty and Hayward, Nancy Now That You Know: A Parents’ Guide to Understanding Their Gay and Lesbian Children Updated Edition, Harvest 2001

Buxton, Amity Pierce The Other Side of the Closet: The Coming-Out Crisis for Straight Spouses and Families John Wiley and Sons, 1991

Eichberg, Rob Coming Out An Act of Love: An Inspiring Call to Action for Gay men, Lesbians and Those Who Care Penguin Group, 1990 

Stevens, Tracey and Wunder, Katherine How to Be A Happy Lesbian: A Coming Out Guide, 2002

Kaufman PhD, Gershon Coming Out of Shame: Transforming Gay and Lesbian Lives Doubleday, 1996

A Selection of Additional Resources 

Katie, Byron Your Inner Awakening: The Work of Byron Katie: Four Questions That Will Transform Your Life Simon and Schuster Audio 2007 www.thework.com website has all the information and tools to do “The Work” for free online

Kabat-Zinn, Jon Wherever You Go There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation In Everyday Life NY Hyperion, 1994

De Becker, Gavin The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us From Violence Little, Brown & Co, Ltd., 1997

Bancroft, Lundy Why Does He DO That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men The Berkley Publishing Group, 2002

Roth, Geneen Lost and Found: Unexpected Revelations about Food and Money Penguin Group Inc., 2011

Individual Counsellors may have additional reading lists on their own websites